Why do some divorcees recover more easily than others?

A study on the personality trait for post-divorce resilience reported here suggests it has to do with high levels of self-compassion.  This quality is defined as “a combination of kindness toward oneself, recognition of common humanity, and the ability to let painful emotions pass”.

It’s not easy to change personality traits, but a divorcee may be able to modify how he or she views the separation, says lead author and University of Arizona psychologist David Sbarra in a news release. “This study opens a window for how we can potentially cultivate self-compassion … and help smooth the journey through one of life’s most difficult experiences.”

One of the ways to cultivate self-compassion is through the practice of mindfulness.