Why do some divorcees recover more easily than others?

A study on the personality trait for post-divorce resilience reported here suggests it has to do with high levels of self-compassion.  This quality is defined as “a combination of kindness toward oneself, recognition of common humanity, and the ability to let painful emotions pass”.

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It’s not easy to change personality traits, but a divorcee may be able to modify how he or she views the separation, says lead author and University of Arizona psychologist David Sbarra in a news release. “This study opens a window for how we can potentially cultivate self-compassion … and help smooth the journey through one of life’s most difficult experiences.”

One of the ways to cultivate self-compassion is through the practice of mindfulness.

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