In the post yesterday featuring the UK Ministry of Justice’s recently released video on family mediation, a distinction was drawn between couples counselling and family mediation (i.e., divorce or separation mediation).
Patti Murphy, a family mediator based in Brooklyn poses the questions:
But what if the couple didn’t want an archaeological exploration of past family behavior or accept that the issues between them were so insurmountable that the only answer was to walk away? Then what?
The good news is – there is another option: Couples Mediation. It’s really more of a new application than a new process. Mediators have been helping couples resolve conflicts for years … but it turns out these same skills can be used to avoid, rather than ease, divorce! This process, (also called “Marital Mediation” for officially married couples) is helpful for those couples that want to stay together.
In my own view, unlike therapy, it’s not about fixing or curing people, but rather it’s about supporting conversations that can bring both people greater clarity on their situation, on the options they have, and on what to do to move forward.